Tuesday, 30 December 2014

Is It Still Safe to Fly?

We just found some plane debris and luggages and bodies on the sea surface. AirAsia QZ8501.

This is our 3rd Malaysia-related air tragedy in 2014. MH370 went missing in March. MH17 was shot down near Russia-Ukraine border in July. QZ8501 crashed due to a bad weather.

To have 1 aviation incident is bad. To have 2 incidents involving one country is horrible. To have 3 incidents involving one country. It is the WORST NIGHTMARE.

Question: Is it still SAFE to fly?

As a frequent flyer, I have said many times to my friends. If you need to go home, just fly. You easily die on the road. Flying is so cheap. Flying is so quick. 

Just fly.

I can't help but to feel that my advise hasn't been very accurate. Everybody's so spooked while recalling my words. 

We know that today, the aviation technology has been greater, safer and more advanced than ever. ALL statistics show flights are SOOO much safer than road transport, trains, ferries etc.

So why are we feeling so apprehensive? Because 3 incidents involving one country is the worst nightmare. 3 incidents involving Malaysia is a first in the history. 

To twist the word, it means that aviation accidents are RARE

3 incidents involving one country is already the most we can ever encounter. We have thousands of car accidents going on everyday in all parts of the world. 

I have quite a vague idea of what I want to express today. 

All I want to say is, I'm still very confident in aviation. I will still go on flights. But as time goes, I will take weather condition and flight routes into consideration. After all, now we know that in extreme cases, people may wanna bomb you down just because they can and you're at the right place at the right time; and that airplanes are no longer invincible to crazy weathers anymore.

Keep your faith in our aviation industry. We own it. 

Condolences to all. 

Things Arvin and Jane say #7: I left my heart

I dropped Arvin back home. About 2 minutes later, he called me.

Arvin: *rushed panicky voice* ehhh, I left something in your car!!

Me: Huh what you left la? *planning to swerve back*

Arvin: I left my heart....

AWWWW really good with sweet talking haha!

Things Arvin and Jane say #6: This is Angel Fish la

Anyway this conversation happened before the movie.

Arvin: Aiyo Chinese restaurants charge so expensive for fishes zzz (We were talking about eating at Chinese restaurants) My favourite one is bla bla fish and angel fish.

Me: Huh? What's angel fish?

Arvin: Nehh, the fish with black-white-yellow stripes. You went snorkelling in Langkawi you sure saw before one. It's the boss fish in Finding Nemo.

Me: I don't know la. Show me an angel fish picture.

Then Arvin went on to show me this. 

Me: Oh yea! I think I saw this fish before.

Arvin: Yeah! But well the angel fish you saw in Langkawi don't look like this face laaa.

Me: HAHAHAH duhhhhh wtf =_= 

Anyway guys, this is the REAL angel fish that you'd see in the sea hahahahaha wtf it would look something like this.

Saturday, 27 December 2014

The Saddest Moments

I have felt a range of emotions lately. Being an optimistic individual, I'm unusually upset. Here's to recount the saddest moments I've had in December.

1. Not working hard for finals.

Despite knowing the consequence. I need good results to apply for overseas research scholarship. I KNOW this is what I WANT. But the fact that I'm quite smart kicks in. I know that I never have to study as much as others to achieve the same result. Basically I just spent about 3-4 hours on average to revise for every subject. And I know that this amount of time is fking little for EVERY course, what more medicine.

I'm gonna do fine for this exam because the semester has been really easy for me. But I know the results are not the products of my hard work. They are a gift from my parents.

Which reminds me again and again that I have been taking short cuts in my whole life. I've cheated my way in and out. I know I sound like I'm boasting. But it is true. Many of us have been taking too many short cuts in our life.

In short, I didn't know how to work my best. I still don't know. All I have today isn't what I deserve. In some ways, I have disappointed myself.

2. Finally understanding how my boyfriend felt when I left him heartlessly.

I still think my boyfriend is the best thing that has ever happened to me in my life. But at times I do fade off. Nothing serious was going on when I was overseas. But he missed me and he texted and called me everyday. I didn't reply, and I didn't want to. Because that was when I began to see a future of mine which he doesn't share.

I didn't understand how deep in despair he was, or rather, I didn't care. All I was thinking of was just how to make connections when I was in China. Making full use of the resources, planning what my next speech should be about, working on how to see life as it is, when all I did was hurting the one I love.

Thinking back, I was probably the most heartless bastard ever. When I have finally understood how my boyfriend felt, I felt streams after streams of pain in my chest. I have been faithful physically. But in some ways, my soul have begun cheating, the moment when I refused to place an important spot for my boyfriend in my heart.

I guess this is part of growing up. Understanding love, understanding how important it is to show your love. I'm going to make it up.

3. Realizing that I didn't work hard to be part of my friend's life.

Which I can't really change. I love being alone. But at the same time, I want to participate.

4. Realising that my parents didn't participate enough in my growth, and that I didn't participate enough in their growth either.

If you read my blog, you'd probably know that my family background wasn't too well off during my childhood. My parents were always working and stressful. They still are. I didn't have a particularly memorable childhood either. I know for a fact that I purposely try not to recall my childhood because I consciously do it all the time since young. After some time of suppressing memories, we just tend to... not remember anything. It's ironic how the most remarkable things from my childhood were the crazy maids and my neighbour who ran away when he got chased by ah long wtf. Speaks a lot about my childhood.

One of the reason why I travel madly whenever I have a long break, which I find out only recently, is trying to avoid anything to do with being with my family. Ever since stepping into adulthood, I have been avoiding spending time with my family a lot. I distance myself to avoid feeling too close to them. Well, I still do take the time to spend some time with them, but I never do more than I think I should. I make my own decisions and inform my parents of my decisions instead of discussing with them. I have been trying to pin-point to a reason why I do this for years. I have just figured this out onyl a couple of months ago. I learned that there's more to discover about being me.

5. Discovering my true passion.

I haven't been exactly successful in doing this. But I just started having an idea. It should have been music, not medicine, not physics, not mathematics.

When I was young, I was musically talented. I can listen to a song and play the melody right out with a piano. I can feel the soul behind a song and I cried for the song when I was only 6. I remember feeling music flowing in my mind and I even made some music myself. I think my mum discovered that and sent me for piano classes when I was 11. 11 years old was quite a late age to start learning music. But I was really good.

I don't know why the talent started to fade when I was 15. Slowly, I had to work so hard to get the rhythms flowing in my mind. The music eventually stopped. I was unable to play a song that I just heard. Disappointment and hatred for myself kicked in so badly that I hated myself so much. I didn't talk to anyone about this problem simply because I wasn't the kind to share about my stories with others.

After a while, I managed to embrace the fact that music doesn't work for me. At the same time I realise that I'm really good at science and I wanted to study nuclear science or related chemistry. But somehow fate led me to joining a musical and thinking back, that was the happiest time in my college life.

Somehow I ended up studying medicine. Medicine was at first confusing, then it became really handy and easy. But I have come to this point where I don't know why I'm playing all the time, then studying for the finals, then go on playing until the next exam comes. I know I can afford to be lazy because in the end I can still get some fine grades. This is something I don't have to work hard for, and I don't want to work hard for.

In short, I realise that I have no anchor to my life.

I got a little depressed after the exams for this reason. Then amidst all confusion, I took out my dusty musical books and scripts and started singing like I used to.

I haven't felt so happy and elated in a while. It was as if all clouds moved away for me to see the sun.

6. Golf

I have never hated this sports so much until recently. You have probably heard about how golf is concerned when it comes to one-level high flood going on in North Malaysia. Even ducks can't swim like this la wtf.

The floods are scary. But the aftermath is worse. Infections may break out, fishes and water resources are cut down, people starve, supply goes down. Our next economic crisis may be coming.

Brace ourselves, Malaysians. The troubled water is just a beginning.

Friday, 26 December 2014

When We Meet The One

I have come to this stage of life when I feel very happy for the friends who have found the one person for them.

LOL last time when I was young right, when girls get into a relationship, I mostly feel "juuussst because your boyfriend haven't met meeeee" hhahahaha wtf. Fking sour grapes kan. But I admire my ceiling-high confidence wtf.

What triggers me to write this entry is meeting my high school friend whom I haven't met for 3 years.

It's not like we are miles apart. She stays merely 3 miles away. We were close but as you know, both our schedules caught up with us. I am lazy and I am busy.

It's good to have other friends who keep me updated about others. So I know she has a great guy who takes care of her well and I sincerely approve LOL SOUND LIKE I'M HER MUM WTF. She told us about her stories. And I thought of how I have someone too.

Then I thought to myself, do you have the slightest idea of how lucky you are?

Sometimes we really don't know what we want out of a relationship until we are in one. When we were younger, we were like some bimbo teens falling for the most popular guys in school la wtf hahahahhaa. Then butterflies happened in our stomachs and we were so curious how it feels to be kissed.

Aiya, you know la. Silly little girl stuff hahaha. We didn't know how much it rewards and how much it hurts to place our hearts in somebody's hand.

Then we may or may not get a boyfriend. Regardless, we grow up and we started having a list of criteria we look for in our future boyfriends and husbands la. Like mine was, tall, cash, smart, quietly strong and fking handsome when I was 18 hahahahah which can only be found in Hollywood.

I had this huge crush on a guy called JA when I was in college. On one fine day he found out hahahahaha wtf and then he msg me on facebook. I didn't even read the message coz I know it was definitely about my crush on him so I ran away and took a bath to calm the fire down.

Mana tau this fella went to text me on my phone instead =_= I couldn't avoid anyway so end up we had to talk about it la. I don't even remember what he said but it was some good memories. Now I recall back I think he's REALLY CUTE to confront me about this and I was SUPER CUTE for being so shy wtf hahahahah I mean, WHO DO THIS LA -_-ll anyway I think the crush is one-sided la. There goes my sad crush story HAHAHA

Back to the topic, there were butterflies in the stomach, there were criteria. But we grew up and we know that these are not enough to make you feel like going into a relationship or whatsoever.

The reasons can be because the guy doesn't feel the same way like you do (which was what happened to me HAHA DAFUG), or pressure, studies, no chemistry, not compatible, whatever shit you can list here. At some point of our life, we would know it when we like someone but we know it just couldn't work out. I have my fair share of experience on this.

Then we would still grow, realizing one day that, the one might has been by your side all the time.

You realise that, the one doesn't fulfill your list of criteria. The only thing that matches is that, he feels the same way that you do. He wants to work things out with you. He knows that his and your mental maturity have come to a point that is compatible. He makes you happier than ever. He isn't perfect but somehow he becomes the right fit for you.

There are heartbreaks and disappointments and fights along the way. But he makes you realise that he's worth keeping, that yourself are worth even more.

And when you find this one person who makes you feel like this, I am happy for you.
(I probably haven't found the one, but I'm happy now)

On a side note, I wish all of you a jolly Christmas season.

Here's me with a Christmas tree with flowers similar to those prints on my dress.

Tuesday, 23 December 2014

Friends Who Grow Up Together

What makes me do this entry was probably meeting my musical friends today.

I'm not sure whether it was the hardship we went through together as a team, or the common passion for broadway music. Even after months and years of not meeting, they still feel as warm to me. At some points I feel like we don't even click so well, but I still feel very warm.

It even makes me sad when some others, whom I am not so close with, couldn't make it for this lil' gathering.

As for those whom I haven't met for a long time, I miss them deeply.

Probably because we grew together, as individuals and as a group.
I'm probably one of the awkward clappers in the background.

Anyway, long story short. I was in Love Is A Many-Splendoured Thing! (LIAMST) Musical in 2011-2012. It was a musical production done completely by students and driven by nothing but passion (we didn't have money, no sponsors, no stage, fking uni didn't even support us until it became big).

When I first joined the musical practice session, it wasn't meant to be this big. I joined because I liked music. There was Mr. Kingsley who had been trying and trying to get a team of about 40 student performers who are good enough to form a team, for 10 YEARS!!! Every year he tried, he failed, then he tried, he failed again. Somehow in 2011, every thing was just right. We had a few leaders who are natural musical performers, many with passions, many other newbies who come in with just interest, but discovered as good singers. Somehow we found 16 singing talents and another 20 dancers.

We thought it would end up as an annual performance in university, which we were happy with. But with some unknown strength, Mr. Kingsley and Adeline pushed us to a fking big public stage wtf

I remember when I first saw the stage I was like fucked I'm gonna fall down fuck whoever that asked me to join this thing wtf hahahahahahaa

Anyway, I did fall down on stage, TWICE. Got the name of butt magnet for this reason hahahahhaha I love ma butt.

Coming back to the topic: Friends Who Grow Up Together.

I don't mean the friends who grow up with you when you're 10 years old till now. Probably because I don't have many friends who grew up with me from 10yo and whom I still properly keep contact with.

Probably for the common love for music, or for LIAMST, I have gone through shits together with the musical friends. We worried for lack of sponsors, we worried that nobody was gonna buy our tickets so we ran around selling them, We worried about the lack of talent, we worried about how we weren't good enough. We cried together when someone was scolded for lack of disciplince, we ate together every night after 2-8pm practice. We learned together, we grew together.

The bond is strong. It's like there's trust, like I know I can leave my life with this person in ease. They taught me that it's fine to mafan and bother your friends simply because we are friends. They taught me that friends are the kind who can do chores together. They taught me that every heartbreak and every adventure can be very meaningful.

I don't understand how I didn't get to develop this kind of bond with my friends from primary school and high school. Probably because of a bad childhood, I became very independent and at the same time, very insecure girl. I never ask for help from anyone, Goodness, I don't even ask for help with my parents. I feel insecure that sometimes I had to lie about something so people don't ask me any further. The friends I met then, I don't know, I view them as close friends but I still don't think the friendship is reciprocated.

I feel like I'm there as their friends only when they need help, they feel alone and need a company, they want to hang out, when they need a person to text etc etc. I'm not their basic needs.

In short, I can't feel the bond. I was too busy hiding my own weakness.

I'm glad LIAMST happened because it changed my life. In terms of relationships, I began to know why it's important to let people help you, even when you think you don't need to. I began to feel confident knowing that I am loved and needed and wanted as a friend and that it's okay to ask for help.

It's okay to ask them to go service the car with you. It's okay to make them wait just for a while when you are in trouble. It's okay to speak out ideas about planning the next trip even if it doesn't work out. It's okay to feel important.

I feel the bonds with my musical friends. I feel the bonds with Joshua and Arvin who are my best friends for life. I don't think I feel it with the friends which I meet before my adult years.

And to make things worse, I can totally feel that my mindset is totally different from the teenage-year friends. I don't know whether it's because the things and the environments surrounding us differ, or because I'm surrounded by people who travel, or simply because I have more multicultural friends now. Sometimes I think there's some prejudice and stigma which they carry, and I know it's not a good thing to carry. I want to change this mindset of theirs.

But I can't. How could I, when I know that they live a totally different life from mine?

I want to tell them the world is bigger than they feel it is. I want to tell them how wrong it is to simply categorise people according to race and religions. I want to tell them that you shouldn't disregard and label some things as bad, evil, sinful.

But how could I, when I know that they don't live the life like mine, that in the life they live, their mindset is totally appropriate?

I can't.

The lack of bond was present all along. Then the difference in mindsets kicked in. It kills the little things that's left in a friendship.

I guess I need to be less pessimistic on this matter. Things come and go. I have had a lot more amazing experiences and realizations in my life. I probably had to lose one or two things. I guess that compensates.

I don't know whether I'm the only one who encounter this. I hope I'm not.

Just to reminisce about the LIAMST! moments, here you go.
There I was, falling in love with Chee Chenk whom I met in a trolley in San Francisco hahahahaha wtf. He is currently in UCL in UK and I hope he's doing fine as ever.

There with a quirky smile :) with Choong Hou

Probably the only time when Beatles don't need drums. LOL NO DRUMS BEHIND THE BEATLES BOARD WTF. Cheat people's money max la HAHAHA

Begging my love not to leave me alone in the trolley =_= fking no face la

And the one with the big mouth. HAHAHAHAH don't judge lerh wtf.

I sincerely thank LIAMST for changing me. It was a great journey growing up together. We will be friends for life. I will invite all of you to my wedding la hahahaha wtf you're welcome.

Let's kick-start LIAMST! The Musical 2015!

Add-on: I hope Mr. Kingsley gets some rest. It grows a heart-wrenching flame when I heard he's not well. One of the men I fully respect in my life.


Congrats to Xiaxue who just became the most gorgeous TyreQueen ever!

Damn chio and beautiful right <3 There she is elegantly sitting on a couch of black charcoal-ly tyres. For once I actually find tyres not so undesirable and heavy and stupid LOL fking judgemental wtf

Which reminds me. I'm a tyre queen too.

I have my tyres at my belly, instead of being under my butt like Xiaxue does hahahahahaha wtf

Gotta head back to the gym!

Saturday, 20 December 2014

The Story of the Maid: What Should You Consider While Getting/Having A Maid

This is what happened la...

So for the past months, my maid has been really terrible-mannered. The story is, my previous maid went back to Cambodia. So our family needed a new maid. After viewing some profiles, my mum chose this 19-yo maid from Kupang. Then when she came..


Anyway I think she lied about her age. Well what to do right? Suddenly all of us have a little sister at home. Except for the fact that she's damn weird and have the princess temper. But since nobody at home gave a flying shit, it was fine.

Our family is VERY VERY good to all our past maids, we had about 13-15 before. My maid gets to watch TV (in fact my maids watch TV more than any of us), eat junk food, dance to radio and all kinds of shits as long as she cooks, washes and irons the clothes and cleans the house.

Anyway this maid she very naughty and lazy one. The house was so fking dusty lo she sweeps only once or twice a month I think. But nobody really cares la.

Then one day she just ran away. She didn't steal any money. But SHE FRIGGING STOLE MY DRESSES MY HIGH HEELS AND MY HANDBAGS FFFFFFFFUUU.

She prolly wanna bring them home to be pretty and get married so anyway never mind la. I am a really naise person I forgive you.

Anyway that wasn't the bad part. Ever since she left, the house got so clean LOL cos' we as a family put effort to keep the house clean and wonderful!

The disturbing part is every night we got some weird calls at home.

The first week was 2 fellas, 1 calling from Sarawak as her "friend", another one calling from "Immigration department". My mum always was the one who picked up the calls. The "friend" would say omg Jelli suda kena cangkap kat sarawak ni mem u mesti tolong la, ni kawan saya. (Jelli is caught in sarawak, you have to help her, this is my friend!). The friend was always begging for help.

Because he's a guy so naturally my mum would assume he's my maid's boyfriend or something.

Then about an hour later, the "immigration officer" would call. Ni immigrasion office ni, nak call kerane ada report kata you mendesa maid u ni, pukul dan marah sumua (This is immigration office and we are calling because there's a report saying that you beat your maid up). This officer would always ask us to fly to Sarawak to get my maid health report done to see whether the scars on her were done by my family =_= Wtf right, sometimes when we come home from work, we don't even know where our maid is(cos' she likes to go out with her friends), how to pukul her hahahahaha wtf.

Anyway my mum just gave him a piece of her mind and said if they really think we pukul our maid, they should fly to KL since we have the best hospital in KL and the test would be even more accurate. Then the officer would try to convince my mum to fly to Sarawak telling her that flights are so cheap wtf.

This lasted for about 1 week. Then from the 2nd week onward, there's always a call at 2am or 3am after midnight. The first night when this happened I freaked out coz' nobody would call the house phone and if someone does, something bad may have happened, like OMG my grandma got injured my uncle bang people and some other shit.

Turn out there's only a land of silence in the phone call.

So of course I would hang up right. Then it happens for the whole next month. I get so sick of it that I won't even believe it if somebody tells me that it's the ghost hour. Anyway after some time, my brother and I decided that we were so fed up picking up empty midnight calls so we just left it to ring.

I think there wasn't any phone call at 2am since last 2 weeks. Bless my sleepless soul.

Anyway, ever since my maid ran away in early September, I became the maid of the house hahahahha wtf mum is saving money out of me.

I naturally assumed the position cos' I'm the only girl (beside my mum) in the family. Although I'm a feminist la, my parents are so old-fashioned they don't believe in any shit like this. To them, it is only natural for a girl to do more house work. When I go to class, my mum does the chores.

Which is why I'm writing this.

Nowadays, we do have an increasing number of family that have 2 working parents. So it's either the grandparents take care of the kids or the kids will be sent to daycare. Most of the times these families will hire maids.

But be very mindful! Some maids give trouble. Some more maids are potentially DANGEROUS!!

Here is a handful of things you should consider while getting a maid, or having a maid

1. How old are your kids?

If they are about 16-17 and they are able to be independent, you probably should just get the weekly cleaners. Most of the times, after work, you can get your kids to cook the rice and you tapao some food from outside. During the weekends, you can teach your kids how to cook. That works great in my family!

Some teenagers don't know how to do the washings. Besides, washings can be very tedious and time-consuming. Get a washing machine to do the job.

However, you must put more consideration if your children are young. I would advise that if you have toddlers at home and you really need a maid, make sure there's at least a grandparent at home. This is because when a maid does something wrong and you correct her, she may get pissed and releases the temper on your toddler. God knows what they do.

If your kids is 4-10 years old, you have to keep a very CLOSE watch too! We once had an abusive maid but we only found out after she went TOTALLY mental. When I was young, my family was really really poor so my mum took up 2 jobs at once to keep the finance going. We have 4 children (3 brothers and me) at home so we needed a maid and we got Aida from Philippines. She hit my eldest brother really bad. Sometimes her nerve got broken suddenly, then she would just leave us by the road side or on the roof top or somewhere else. She used the broom the clean the rice cooker. She stole my mum's bra and marked her own initial and claimed that it was hers.

I didn't think she was dangerous cos' I was only 4. Now when I recalled, I really hoped that my mum was home. I really wished that we weren't that poor. Having a bad maid leaves a permanent mark in our lives, especially when we are young because that was when our personality and self-esteem was shaped. I wouldn't say that this one shit maid changed my personality, but I know that this had happened to some other families.

2. What or who are the maid going to be taking care of?

Grandparents? Children? Most of the maids don't want to take care of the elderlies. So make sure you get to inform them/agents what kind of service you're looking for.

3. You'd probably want to choose based on where they come from.

I suggest that the best maids are from Cambodia.

Although the language is a problem (many of them speak MINIMAL English), they are very patient and very moderate. Sometimes they may ask you to give them note books to write on and picture books to read and learn English. But these aren't a lot to ask for. Please do this for them.

However, it isn't as easy to get Cambodian maids due to immigration policy changes.

Maids from some other countries can be either fking stupid or fking egoistic.

Lately, there's a big stream of maids from Kupang, Indonesia. I'd say be more careful than usual.

4. How much salary are you offering?

Be mindful: however much salary you're offering isn't going to change the quality of maid. It's just gonna be the same. It's usually due to the different rates charged by the agencies because the agents usually take a few months of salary worth from your maid.

5. What is near your house?

If you have mamak stalls near your house, your maid is probably gonna run away with the mamak stall roti canai makers.

If you have 7-11 around, your maid may help her boyfriend to buy cigarette there LOL wtf.

If your neighbours have maids from the country, they probably are gonna plot a runaway together. So be mindful.

6. Look at the profile photos properly before hiring the maids

I have so many maids who claimed that they are 18-21 years old on their profiles but end up being 13 years old when they arrive at our home LOL HOW DO YOU GET 7 YEARS YOUNGER OVERNIGHT fking agency lying sorcery.

MANY agents actually LIE. The only way you get to guess the maids' ages is looking at their photos. So make sure you have a good look.

7. Should I give her a handphone?

If she never asks for it, DON'T.

If she ever does, make sure she gets it with her own money. Because if she wants to go for good phones which are gonna cost about 2k, she would re-consider the value of the phone compared to her accumulated salary. NEVER get any package signed under your name.

Let's hope that she doesn't know the existence of data package, or your wifi password.

8. Ensure that your maid and your family know who they are, and what they should do.

Maid is maid. Job is job. You must have heard of those stories about how the maids become pregnant then apparently the father of her child is either your kids or your husband. Never let that happen.

Talk to your kids about their future. Of what they should be and how they have to do to achieve their dream. Tell them that they should never let the little temptations get in the way. Of course la I'm not telling you to tell them to rape the maid. Don't say it so obviously la hahahah wtf. Drop them hints, if they are mature enough, they will know how important this is.

As to your husband, divorce him and take his money. Cheaters are not worth keeping. What more stupid cheaters?

9. If you really decide to hire one, make sure you communicate with your children.

Tell them how important it is to report what the maid has said and done to you. It's detrimental to ensure that your children are not treated abusively. Talk to your maid calmly when your child reported that she did something wrong. Tell her that you can understand it from her point of view. Tell her that you made the same mistake in the past too. Tell her that it's okay as long as she stopped doing the wrong things. Remind her that she has family back at home and let her sense of responsibility kicks in, this will make her want to be better on her own will. Don't talk to her with the authoritative manner like I'm your boss la listen to everything I say because she most probably gonna take it out on your children when you're not home.

Remember that maids are human and they have rights too. Don't deny them things that they deserve :)

6 Reasons Why You Must Watch The Hobbit

Hobbit is finally up in the theatre!! Well I like LOTR but am not exactly a super fan, which makes my opinions here totally unbiased hhahahaha wtf!

Here's 6 reasons why you HAVE to watch The Hobbit!

1. You don't have to know the plot to watch it. 

Which was exactly what happened during our movie session. When Bilbo put on the ring to get invisible, I heard a friend asking what is that ring WTF the whole LOTR and Hobbit movies are centered around that freaking ring LOL I was almost tempted to say it's a Tiffany engagement ring made of gold.

So remember, you don't have to know any shit to watch The Hobbit, or LOTR. Just like Isaac my friend!

2. The graphic is sick
Salute these actors when they went like OMG THIS PLACE IS SO BEAUTIFUL AND THE WATERFALL SPARKLES when all they see is green screen hahahaha wtf.

Before the movie was done making, all orcs and goblins were just a pile of 3D grey muds. Wicked graphic. Stunning us audience since 2001. 

3. Because this guy is more beautiful than you.
What is his name? Fking prettier than you. He's a constant reminder to me that humans are fugly. No plastic surgeries can save us. 

4. Because Legolas defies gravity in 100 scenes in Hobbit.

Legolas just seemed to be flying and doing chinese kungfu jumping shit in the movie wtf. The movie should be named The Hobbit: The Battle of the Chinese Armies.

Legolas be like gravity whatttt is that? Can eat one ah?

4. Because I have no idea what Gandalf is doing in this Hobbit.

We'll give him a break. He's an old man.

5. All the good-looking dwarves died. 

Which is a pity because we know most dwarves are not as beautiful as the shiny elves.

Anyway the prettier dwarves (spoiler) died. Left with those weird dwarves who have braids around their beards wtf.

6. Because Benedict Cumberbatch is the dragon!!!

Just a sneak peek of how your super cool Sherlock looks like as a dragon hahahahahahaah wtf

Of course you're fire. Looking good :D

Saturday, 6 December 2014

25 Backpacking Travel Guidelines For Asians

I thought I should just share this here.

I know there are 1000 travel tips posted by other bloggers. But I think you shouldn't read them. Why? Because I read them and they are bullshits.

Just kidding. They are great. Unfortunately I can't follow them because most of them backpackers are young Europeans or Americans whose currency are 100x bigger than ours. With their 10 dollars they can book half the kampung in Thailand already LOL So unless your dad is some big tycoon who can afford to use money to wipe his ass, practically those guidelines are useless to you and you probably don't need to go backpacking as cheap as I do wtf.

Plus I'm Obama's friend. In me you should trust.

Which is why you need to read mine lol.

Anyway, this guideline is catered to all SEA Asians (except for Singaporeans because virtually, most Singaporeans are relatively well-off) as long as you want to travel economically :)

1.  Make sure you get your food DURING the flight.

Not before, not after you landed. Especially during long-haul flights. Because of the airport tax, the only way to avoid that tax is either you're on the land, or in the air. Well the exception is when you landed in Thailand and everything is with our pasar malam price then of course, eat all you can there. As soon as you leave the flight and enter the airport, every food price increases by 15% whether you like it or not.

I have been taking MAS all my life so I always keep whatever snacks I could, then ask for more from the air stewards. They are always professional and generous so please be thick-skinned. But I probably shouldn't be teaching you all this method, since customers like me may be part of the reason why MAS is bankrupting...

If you're taking AirAsia, buy the meal online ahead. That nasi lemak is the best one in the world.

2. You probably should just travel alone.

Again, it depends on what kind of travellings you want to do. Overall, unless the person is your boyfriend/girlfriend/soul mate, NOT even your mum should go backpacking with you. Because travelling requires the discovery of your own soul, to blend and connect your thoughts with the place you're at, bringing another person just, doesn't feel right.

Instead, you should travel to the place yourself, then randomly talk to other backpackers and decide that you would want to be each other's company and part when your destination is different.

Plus, you save a whole lot of money travelling alone (unless when you need partners to chip in for something). You can have a meal with just breads and save the money for an exclusive local dinner all in your will.

I know many, especially girls, although crave for this, would hardly consider this as an option simply because, we are girls la not safe like that alone ma. OMG If you really worry about your safety, bring a knife around (I do that, don't judge LOL). When you want to avoid pick-pocketers especially in Paris and London, walk with a strong gaze at people, look confident and alert(even if you feel like shit), most of the time your appearance is the best protection for yourself.

3. Choose your partner selectively and wisely.

I know you may wanna be around your best friends. But often they turn out to be not-so-cool travel buddies. When we travel, we would need somebody to see the map, we need somebody to estimate the budget, we need somebody with the insight of planning the timeline. To sum up, we need a partner with discipline and integrity. Besides, it's only natural that they may not want to do the same thing as you do.

Don't pick someone who complain about the sun when you're about to hike the rock.

Don't pick someone who may tie you down when you want to go for the wildest music chair party in town.

Don't pick someone who isn't willing to chase the bus with you.

Pick someone like my brother hahahaha.

Add-on: Get your Malaysian driving license converted to an international license and rent a car! You can drive and explore almost the whole Europe! (But it's not usable in China)

4. Water costs a fortune.

You probably wouldn't realise this when you're on your usual daily schedule because we tend to take water for granted. When you're travelling, every water you drink is either bought or taken from the hotel. I remember spending RM60 per day just for drinking water in Paris. So please bring an empty big bottle in your luggage. Remember to make an effort to refill water before you start your day travelling, it takes only half a minute to do so.

If you're thick-skinned enough, you can even try to make friends with the hostel owner and ask them to give you free mineral water. Always smile and they may even cook you breakfast.

Add-on: In places like Scotland and Finland, the water is from glacier so they are VERY clean. Not only you can drink from tap water, you can also drink from toilet water. (But not in Ireland apparently)

5. Always keep a bar of chocolate in your pocket.

Especially during long distanced train ride that sells food which cost another gold mine. A bar of high-energy can save you more than a meal.

6. Water and nutrition is the key to everything.

When I was in Ireland, I contracted pneumonia and it took me 2 months to recover. The final result was permanently hardened lung. I got a bladder infection in China. Both caused me a fortune. However much they cost didn't matter, but there was so much time wasted and the recovery process feels terrible.

Therefore, bring a bottle of Vitamin C supplement and again, keep yourself hydrated.

And a tons of paracetamols and some NSAIDs for hangovers from drinking HAHA! You gotta keep your physique tight and ready for every day's schedule.

7. DON'T TIP!!!!

I know for a fact that it's hard not to tip when you're in places like US and UK. But this is something you have to learn: one whole day of tipping can cost up to RM50.


Standard price of tipping is 2-5$ or pounds per service. So for example, you order a meal for 6 pounds you gotta tip about 2 pounds to the waiter. So it's RM10 free for the waiter who practically did nothing but just pass you your food. After you tip, if he does something more, practically you gotta tip again. And then add the amount of tippings for your lunch and ESPECIALLY dinner. SO DON'T START TIPPING!! Take the advantage of looking like a young and poor backpacker(which I really am) and if they demand for tips, apologise sincerely and say that you still have a long journey ahead.

Besides, don't say thank you yet when you pay. Only say thank you once you receive your change back. The waiter may understand that as a tip.

Keep the money for the street performers who you think do really well in the subways. Because talent is to be appreciated. Or keep the money to buy a Baguette(long bread) to feed the pigeons.

8. Stay in hostels

Because they can cost as low as $8 per night. If you want to save somemore money, take the floor and use your backpack as your pillow. It can be free sometimes.

Sometimes your flight arrives or departs at odd hours(when transport back to the city costs the most). You can consider a night-sleep at the airport too.

9. Buy a local sim card and make local friends.

If you will be in the same country for at least a month, make sure you make friends with fellow travellers and locals along the way, and get a sim card. A sim card would cost about $20 but this sim card is gonna be your best friend during your stay when you can call up the locals(which you have made friends with) for any help. They may even call their families to let you stay with them when you travel to another district. We NEED HELP when we are alone in somewhere unfamiliar!

Besides, the mobile internet access is gonna help you with booking the cheapest hostels wherever you go. All in all, getting a sim card is a big PLUS.

Here's why you MUST get a simcard if you have a long stay. This is my story.

When I left from Beijing to Mongolia, I was in a rush and didn't do any research about the place at all. The night before, I was busy dealing with St. Gallen University students from Switzerland. After 9 hours of night train I was finally in Mongolia. I was extremely exhausted so I needed to find a hostel asap. I talked to a few people at the station and they gave me an address. So I got a cab.

Somehow I ended up at some ULU kampung mongolian place where everybody looked like they gonna eat me alive cos' they have never seen anyone so fair omg omg omg. Somemore I saw a man staring at me hungrily while roasting a lamb leg outside his house HOLY SHIT LOL. Then I ran and found the place with the address, and there were 5-6 hostels but all of them looked like PROSTITUTE DENS T.T

I paid about 100RMB (RM50 or $16) for a room but after a while I wanted leave coz the boss KEPT MAKING ME CHINESE TEA FOR NO REASON FML.

I had this war going on in my brain and I wanted to save money(if I leave, I can't get my deposit back) so I decided to stay. Then the bursting point came. I realise that my room had no bathroom so I asked the lao ban(boss) where do I bath at?

"Ohh about 10 minutes across the street, there's a public spa and it's unisex."


Dude u think I know how to bath unisex is it?!

So I left immediately and I used my simcard to go online to find a proper youth hostel in the city to stay at, which only costed about RMB40 (RM20 or $8) per night. THANK GOD I ESCAPED THAT PROSTITUTE DEN.

Best simcard in the world.

10. Bring some local food to travel

To soothe your melancholic stomach and to make friends. Anything as small as dodo kuih and even 3-in-1 Milo will do (except for Australia because they have it too LOL). Little gifts like this are a lot more EFFECTIVE than buying people stuffs from their own homeland. People view it as sincerity and the willingness to let them know you on your root. This sincerity will go a long way. They probably invite you to stay in their house for FREE!

PS: Food always works the best. So don't bring objects.

11. Specifically in Italy: DON'T SIT DOWN IN A RESTAURANT!!

They may charge you double price than you taking away. The rate is NOT STANDARDISED =_=

12. Specifically in Italy: Eat pizza to save money

Buy a pizza and with your Asian diet, it can most likely last you a whole day. Depending on where you are, a pizza would cost about 4-9 Euros, which is a lot cheaper than their spaghetti and rissoto which cost 6-7 Euros each, and only lasts for a meal(cos' you cannot bungkus tapao leftover food in Europe la)

13. Specifically in France: DON'T ENTER A CAFE AND ORDER A COFFEE!!!

Unless you have a whole day free for yourself.  If you leave the cafe within 2 hours, you're so gonna offend the Parisians there because they regard this as your way of saying your cafe suck and you suck because NOBODY LEAVES A CAFE SO EARLY.

Also, if you want to place an order, be patient because the waiter is probably taking a century before they come to you.

On a side note, ever wondered why the chairs and tables outside a cafe always face the road? Just remember to NEVER sit at the chairs facing the street. That's the Parisian cafe culture and I think you may get charged double for your coffee with that too.

14. Also specifically in France: Make sure you learn a couple of French words

Or they gonna start their f*** you English speaker episode hahahhaa wtf just kidding. It is a sign of respect to learn a national language when you're travelling to the country.

15. Specifically in London, Ireland and Paris: Beware of pick pockets

Just make sure you carry your beg in front of your belly instead of at the back. Watch them back when you catch people watching you. They would know that you notice them and decide to leave you alone.

And never let someone help you take photo because they most probably gonna run away with your iPhone.

16. Don't be afraid when people invite you to do shit and have crazy fun.

Most of the times, backpackers are VERY excited to meet fellow backpackers. The locals love to get you out for a community dance in the village. Masquerade dance, bonfire barbeque, everything awesomeeee! So please accept their invitation!

There may be a lot of drugs and drinks involved but be open-minded and keep your mind clear and make sure you stick to only alcohol. (Do you want to include weed?)

17. Get a chest pocket for your passport and money.

Keep some money in the purse. Some more in the chest pocket. If you want to look nice with the chest pocket sticking out at your belly, wear a suit, which leads to my next point.

18. Bring a coat/suit and a beanie.

We all wanna look good and feel good in photos when we travel. But most of the time we would look like some sallow stick men because we have to save money and we have plans the whole day and are a little malnutritioned. Our hair would be a haystack and our T shirt is old and dusty. So bring a suit! They make everybody look poshed for no reason.

Biker jackets work very well most of the times. A formal coat gets you into every musical show. A scarf makes you look like you're a rich tai tai from the high-class society when we are struggling with our travelling budget wtf.

And the beanie for the hair. Everybody looks mainstreamly hippie and cool in one.

19. Specifically in Las Vegas: Go to casinos!!

Don't gamble. Go there for live performance of dancers instead. Nudeness aside, the dancers are actually pretty good. Most importantly, it's FREE! Sometimes you may even catch a live broadway show there. Remember to wander around the hotel lobbies too!

20. Specifically in Las Vegas: Enjoy the night view

Las Vegas isn't just all about sex and 72-hour marriages. They have among the best night views there, pick the right hotels and you get to go up to 40th floor to watch the views for FREE!

Always linger around the hotel lobbies for random performances and events.

21. Specifically in US: JOIN LOCAL TOURS

Most of us backpackers hate the idea of joining tours. But the truth is, US is too big to not to join tours. Sometimes, with money and time constraints, we have to give up backpacking. Imagine travelling from Los Angelos to Las Vegas actually takes more than half a day although they look like neighbours on the maps. And then from Las Vegas to Grand Canyon, the journey wasn't easy either. Besides, US can be extremely unsafe especially in Florida and Miami (remote towns). You are probably dead by the time you make it from the 1st street to the 10th street because everybody has a gun.

Therefore, unless you will have a long stay there, do join a couple of local tours. Moreover, many local tours can be ridiculously cheap (and not cheat!). I joined a local 9-day tour from New York to Washington, Philadelphia all the way to Canada that cost slightly lower than RM1000 ($330) and all the hotels I stayed in were 4-stars (Hilton, Marriot, you name them). The tour leader was extremely professional and friendly!

Add-on: move from cities to cities with Greyhound bus service! I find it cheaper and easier than some other long-distance bus access and flights.

22. Specifically in China: DON'T JOIN LOCAL TOURS

Because among 100 local travel agents, there are 99 cheaters in China (just joking, but you get the picture). These tours would seem cheap at first. But instead of bringing you to the spot they promise to, they bring you to pass by it HAHAHA wtf and then they would drop you at souvenir shop to buy souvenirs. Then they would drop you at duck shops to buy duck. Then they would drop you at Jewellery shops to buy pearls. Before you leave, they ask you for tips or they won't let you off the bus.

If you start the story of how you needa keep the rest of the money for travelling, they are gonna tell you how their grandmothers are sick and how many mouths they need to feed at home....

All in all, good luck!

23. Specifically in Thailand: Don't go to Pattaya.

I don't know. There's nothing there beside a lot of bars and a lot of Europeans, a lot of sex workers and a lot of eurasian kids. The only things there are lights after lights, traffic jams and noisy bars every night.

However, they have a permanent cabaret show that features transgenders and I think it's amazing!

24. Specifically in Switzerland: Have a slightly longer stay

The reason why I am recommending this although everything even an apple costs a fortune there is because Switzerland is utmostly gifted with her extraordinary landscape. It makes us stress-free and allow us take a whole new look on life. Besides, there are Alpacas!!!

Take the train up to Jungfrau Mountain. The train trip is more beautiful than the mountain itself. Make sure you ask the hostel owner whether meals are provided because even if they are not free, they would cost a lot lesser than the restaurants outside. It costs about 30 Swiss Frank (RM100) per meal outside (and no sharing meals with other people because it's considered impolite). You may get it half price in the hostels (but you have to pre-order, or be nice to the boss)

25. Don't fret when you're in trouble

Remember the friends you made, and the simcard you paid for. Let them help you now, You're welcome for the suggestion earlier hehe. If you don't have anyone who can help you, just go to the nearest police or train station. Tell them what happened because they would feel responsible as you come to their country but get in danger. They will help you because they know how you feel.

I promise you they will :)

26. (Add-on) Looking for a toilet can be a problem

This issue sounds ridiculous but is undeniably true especially in the heart of Paris. Make sure you catch the bathroom for a while before you leave the museums and shopping malls.

There's a couple of mobile middle-of-the-street toilets by the Seine river near Louvre. But those toilets are a bit funny. Every time a person goes in and comes out, the toilet takes about 5-10 minutes to wash itself before another person can use it. So by the time it's your queue, your pee and poops may be at the edge already. If you're lucky, you may pass by a shopping mall but firstly, it's hard to spot a shopping mall (cos' every fking conventional building looks the same in Paris) and secondly, the queue is very long because there are 1000 tourists out there who couldn't afford to wait for the mobile toilets, just like you LOL! But no worries! There are many cafes around!!

The only trouble you would face is that the cafe would like you to BUY A COFFEE if you want to use the toilet. The restaurant would invite you for dinner even if you just want to catch a glance of the toilet. And they can be so GENTLY FORCEFUL about it that you can't refuse. So it's either you eat, or you don't get to pee. If you face this situation, you should be happy that you followed the tips early on because now you have saved enough for a coffee + a complimentary toilet trip lol.

If you're in London, you most probably wouldn't face this problem because some tube stations have toilets. Just to give you a couple of directions if you're near this area. On the bridge of Big Ben and London Eye, there is a hospital. I forgot its name but I think it's called St. Thomas. It's on the same side of London Eye and across the river from Big Ben. If you're around there and you're looking for a queue-free toilet and you are SUPER DESPERATE, you may use the hospital toilet. But if you're not, do consider the welfare of the patients :)

Besides, there's a very customer-friendly pharmacy near the hospital entrance. You can buy your supplements there(which is what I did). I remember that Vitamin C, glucosamine(for bones) and Cod liver fish oil cost less than 4 pounds each bottle which is SOO CHEAP IT'S LIKE BLACK FRIDAY SALES. Just kidding la who buys medicine on Black Friday -_-

27. (Add-on) You have to fend off admirers

Especially the girls.

To the Europeans, no matter how flat your nose is and how small your eyes are, we are always the mystical, mysterious oriental pearls hailed all the way from the East. To the Chinese, we are the hot, wild and enthusiastic tropical pokemons. If you have fair skin, they will call you the Porcelain Doll. If you have dark skin, they will call the exotic sunny bunny. Either ways, there will be 100 free drinks and 99 flying kisses across the bar -_-

Just... try your best to run away if it gets too overwhelming.

(this post means no offense to anyone of any nationality. Some of the things I say are just jokes. I respect and love all of you for your warmth and help whenever I get into trouble while travelling!)

Remember to always be open-minded

We SEA Asians are probably not as wild and crazy as those from other regions. So remember, when you're travelling alone, you will see and even EXPERIENCE all sorts of craziness going on, some of which may be unacceptable in your culture. But be open-minded. Know that while it's not right in your dictionary, it's fine in theirs; that even if you can't accept it, doesn't mean you should judge them. Instead, try to know them better, and see the world through their eyes.

I promise you that what you see would be worth your time.

Let me end with a controversial photo taken in Hollywood.

Add-on: Get a Swiss Army knife! They are very handy!

What are Friends?

I have decided today that, I have a very different definition for this word.

I have always defined it as "the people whom you truly connect and bond with, that no distance and no time would bring you apart". By this I mean that even after years of not able to communicate much, the love for the friendship remains.

Today, I decide that many others think otherwise.

They include my close friends in high school and primary schools.

And it hurts because they know how busy I am. It hurts because they know how much time I spend to see the world, to fly far away and to come back. It hurts because they know me as a person who love my alone time.

Yet they figure out that they can't be my friends because I'm too busy.

I am so busy that when they study 30 chapters and scream tired, I am dealing with 200. I am so busy that when they plan a meet-up, I'm overseas. I am so busy that when they are free and done with the semester, I'm just recovering from the post-exam sleeplessness. Most of the other free times I am just reading some online course materials or sleeping. In a way, I can be quite a perfectionist.

I'm not saying medicine is heavy because medicine is not. But I do have more than they do in my hand. The hardest part about medicine isn't the studying, but the state of mind when you have to make yourself so detached from the emotional release, yet feeling every single emotion in other's eyes to understand the agony they are going through.

I'm doing this more and more that I feel different and empowered. I don't feel like the insecure girl in high school anymore. I am confident.

They think that I have changed, which I did.

I do feel like my world is different, that we are from different worlds, with different mentality, different opinions.

I treat all my friends like this. If they are my true friends, they stay true to me. Whenever they need me, I am there for them, money-wise or emotion-wise. But I just don't do the lets-go-out-for-a-coffee thing because first, I can't drink coffee and secondly, I need the time for something else. When I take a day off for me, it means that a patient may be dealt by a doctor who lacks certain knowledge in the future.

I know my best friends stay true to me no matter what. But for the rest of the close friends, I don't know, I do feel lonely although I like being alone. Because even though they don't mean the world to me, they still mean something to me. It is hard, I'm not inhumane enough to throw away whatever bonds and memories we share.

I am usually a very positive woman, but do allow me a moment of grief.

Exam is in 2 days. I will go back to my books now. Thank you everybody for reading this.